When I got married in 2023, I thought I had everything figured out: the venue, the vows, the music playlist with just the right amount of Coldplay. What I didn’t prepare for? My groomsmen being sprayed with wasabi toothpaste and made to wear bras over their shirts while doing squats in front of my in-laws.
Ah yes — the gatecrash.
If you’re new to this proudly Singaporean tradition, it’s basically the bride’s way of letting her girlfriends test the groom’s “worthiness” before the tea ceremony. It’s loud, chaotic, and weirdly wholesome — if you get it right.
So if you’re looking for gatecrash games that are fun but not traumatic, here are five that hit the sweet spot.
1. Love Song Roulette 🎤
How it works: Groomsmen take turns singing love songs. But here’s the twist — each round comes with a random challenge: sing in falsetto, sing while doing push-ups, or sing with a marshmallow in your mouth.
Why it works: It’s silly, entertaining, and gives everyone a breather. Plus, your video guys will love the footage.
Pro tip: Sneak in a personal song the groom once sent the bride. Sentiment + laughter = win.
2. Wasabi Toothpaste Taste Test (Mild Edition) 🧼🌶️
How it works: Line up five toothbrushes — four with regular toothpaste, one with wasabi paste. Groomsmen pick and brush… but here’s the thing: keep it mild. Nobody needs full-blown sinus warfare before the tea ceremony.
Why it works: Classic gatecrash moment — just dialled down to avoid trauma.
Pro tip: Keep tissues nearby. And maybe milk.
3. Love Letter Speedrun 💌
How it works: The groom has 3 minutes to write a heartfelt love letter to the bride. Groomsmen can contribute one line each.
Why it works: Brings a pause to the madness and reminds everyone why they’re doing this in the first place. Surprisingly moving when done well.
Pro tip: Give the letter to the bride right before the door opens. Trust me — instant tears.
4. Yoga Pose Challenge in Bridesmaid Dresses 🧘♂️👗
How it works: Get the guys into bridesmaid dresses and challenge them to hold increasingly ridiculous yoga poses (downward dog, tree, eagle — your call).
Why it works: Hilarious to watch, harmless to execute, and great for group photos. Everyone looks ridiculous together — and that’s the spirit of a good gatecrash.
Pro tip: Make sure someone’s filming this in slow-mo.
5. “How Well Do You Know the Bride?” Quiz 🧠❤️
How it works: Rapid-fire Q&A for the groom: What’s her coffee order? Favourite K-drama? Last movie she cried at? Every wrong answer = a mild forfeit (like wearing lipstick or doing a dance).
Why it works: Fun, meaningful, and perfect for letting the groom show how much he actually pays attention.
Pro tip: Let the bride help craft the questions in advance — she’ll know what traps to set.
Final Thoughts from the Groom Who Lived to Tell the Tale
Gatecrash games can walk a fine line between “fun bonding moment” and “emotional trauma with green dye.” But when done well, they’re an unforgettable part of your wedding story.
Pick games that suit your personalities, leave room for laughs, and end things on a note of love — not exhaustion.
And if all else fails… bribe the bridesmaids with bubble tea.
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