A few months back, I received a wedding invite tucked neatly in an ivory envelope with gold-foil lettering. Everything looked great. I was happy for the couple — dear friends of mine from JC days — until I read two words that sent a small ripple through my brain:
Black-tie optional. Cue slight panic.
Did this mean I had to wear a tuxedo? Could I still wear my dark navy suit from my brother’s wedding? Was this just a fancy way of saying “please don’t wear jeans”? The short answer: no jeans. The longer answer? Let’s unpack it.
In its most traditional sense, “black-tie” is a formal evening dress code, usually for events held after 6pm. Think red carpet, James Bond.
In Singapore, black-tie weddings are still relatively rare, but we’re seeing more of them — especially at venues like The Ritz Carlton, Capella, or St.Regis, where the setting itself calls for something a little more polished than your usual Uniqlo smart casual.
Now, do you need to go full 007 in Singapore’s weather? Probably not, unless the invite specifies it very clearly. Many guys in Singapore opt for a dark suit and tie, which is widely accepted as black-tie adjacent — especially when it’s hot and humid and the solemnisation’s happening at 5.30pm outdoors.
But if you can wear a tuxedo? It does look sharp. And it tells the couple you made the effort.
You don’t need to sparkle like a Christmas tree, but a bit of glam is expected. In Singapore, we tend to go slightly more practical (no one’s wearing faux fur, obviously), but there’s definitely a lean towards chiffon, satin, or other formal fabrics.
And yes — a floor-length jumpsuit can work if it’s structured and styled right. Bonus points for shoulder pads and a bold lip.
Ah, the famous grey area.
This is the couple’s way of saying: “We’d love for you to dress up, but if you don’t own a tux, it’s okay— just come looking sharp.”
For men: A well-fitted dark suit and a conservative tie will suffice. Polish your shoes. Avoid sneakers unless you’re in Gen Z and the couple specifically said they’re going for “creative black tie” (yes, that’s a thing now).
For women: A cocktail dress or tea-length gown is more than acceptable. Add jewellery or a shawl if you want to elevate the look.
• Fabric matters. Pick breathable fabrics like linen blends, light wool, or silk chiffon. Otherwise, you’ll be sweating through your layers before dessert is served.
• Aircon isn’t always your friend. Ballroom weddings are cold. Bring a shawl or jacket if you’re prone to freezing mid-reception.
• Shoes off? Please, no. No matter how pretty your heels are, keep them on. It’s a wedding, not a chalet.
If you’re ever unsure, just ask the couple or the wedding planner. Most will appreciate the effort you’re making to get it right.
Remember: the dress code is less about fashion rules, and more about honouring the couple’s vision for their big day. It shows respect — and maybe gives you an excuse to rent that tux you’ve always wanted to try.
At the end of the day, just show up well-groomed, appropriately dressed and with your heart in the right place. (And ideally, not in berms and slippers.)