A couple of years ago, I was at a wedding at CHIJMES — beautiful setup, golden hour lighting, bride looked like something out of a magazine. And then Uncle Raymond walked in.
Wearing cargo shorts.
With Crocs.
Now I’m not here to roast anyone (okay, maybe a little), but if you’ve ever stared at a wedding invite wondering if your black polo tee is “formal enough”, this article is for you.
Singapore weddings are a unique breed. We’re a mix of cultures, venues, and expectations — from grand ballroom banquets at Marina Bay Sands to casual rooftop solemnisations in Dempsey. The dress code often depends on where, when, and how the couple is tying the knot.
Let’s break it down.
1. Read the Invite. Yes, Properly.
If it says “Black Tie”, it’s not a suggestion.
If it says “Smart Casual”, that doesn’t mean slippers with linen pants.
Don’t skim. Couples are usually quite intentional about the vibe — and the venue is a clue too. An RWS ballroom dinner isn’t the same as a beach wedding at Tanjong Beach Club.
2. For the Gentlemen
Formal / Black Tie:
Tuxedo or dark suit. White shirt. Tie or bowtie. Pocket square if you’re feeling fancy.
(And yes — polish your shoes. Dusty sneakers ruin the look.)
Semi-Formal / Dressy Casual:
Think: blazer, dress shirt, chinos or trousers. Loafers or oxford shoes. Tie optional, but it does elevate things.
Skip the jeans — even if they’re the expensive kind.
Beach or Garden Wedding:
Light colours work. A white linen shirt, beige chinos, loafers (no socks, it’s okay).
Bonus: You’ll survive the heat.
Chinese Tea Ceremony [41. Tea Ceremony Norms in Singapore] or Church Service:
Button-down shirt, dark pants, closed-toe shoes. Nothing too loud. This is not the time to experiment with that floral shirt you bought on impulse.
3. For the Ladies (with help from my wife, because let’s be real — she knows better)
Formal Dinner:
Long dresses, cocktail gowns, jumpsuits. Think elegance, not clubwear.
Bring a shawl — hotel ballrooms are basically meat freezers.
Garden or Beach Wedding:
Flowing midi dresses, soft florals, dressy sandals. Wedges > heels if there’s grass or sand. Avoid white, ivory, cream or anything that looks like it might belong to the bride.
Unless you’re trying to make enemies.
4. Things We Forget (But Shouldn’t)
- Bring a change of shoes if you’re dancing later.
- Check the weather — especially for outdoor events. Umbrellas are practical, not unglam.
- Wear something you can sit, eat, and toast in. You’ll be doing a lot of all three.
A Quick Word for the Overly Chill Cousins Out There
Unless the invite says come as you are (and even then, double confirm with the couple), weddings are special occasions. Put in a little effort. It’s not just about looking good — it’s about honouring the people getting married.
If you’re not sure what to wear? Overdress slightly. It’s better to be the guy in a blazer [12. Tux or Suit? What Grooms Should Wear for a Wedding] than the one who gets mistaken for the caterer.
Final Thoughts
You don’t need a new outfit for every wedding — just a rotation of good pieces that fit well, breathe in the heat, and show that you came to celebrate, not to coast.
So no more excuses, alright? Iron that shirt. Shine those shoes. Comb your hair. (Yes, even you, Bryan.)
Because when you show up looking sharp, you’re not just a guest. You’re part of the magic. And trust me — no one remembers what Uncle Raymond wore. But everyone remembers the guy who made the effort.
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